Posts Tagged ‘Emotional Intimacy’

Turn An Extra-Marital Affair Into A Healing Crisis

Friday, September 14th, 2012

Turn your marital crisis into a healing crisis by using it to learn and grow. Find a trustworthy professional who knows how to be on both of your sides to walk you through to a deeper love. Couples have much to learn about how to express and hear each other’s feelings—fears, hurts, angers, hopes, and dreams. A couple needs to develop real emotional connections and that can happen in the face of an extra-marital affair. Reclaim the intimacy that was in your marriage and got lost, or find what you never had and move on in an informed and healing way.

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Committing to Monogamy Prevents Infidelity

Friday, September 14th, 2012

Committing to monogamy prevents infidelity. Infidelity is a symptom, not a cause. Feeling remorse and “good” shame are how you know you’ve crossed a line. Then you realize you’ve gone against yourself and hurt your partner in the process. What kind of a commitment is necessary? If your commitment is so your partner won’t stray it won’t work because you can’t control someone else’s behavior. You can only be in control of your own. Committing to monogamy is a commitment you make to yourself. When both of you do this, the maturity required provides a safety-net for the vulnerability to learn how to express and hear each other’s feelings—fears, hurts, angers, hopes, and dreams. That’s emotional intimacy that can combine with sexual intimacy in a growing relationship.

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Find The Courage to Really Touch Again

Friday, September 14th, 2012

Bringing back the spark in your marriage is about touching. Touching that is tender, gentle, nurturing, and sexy infuses a marriage with aliveness.  When circumstances, such as the demands of family and work, get in the way of the immediacy of simply being with each other and touching each other, what can we do? We can be real and aligned with each other in the face of stress and feeling overwhelmed. This creates a bond that lessens the fear and hurt that keeps couples apart. Even in the presence of difficulties, couples can discover and make choices that bring them together again. When, instead of being resentful or heavy handed, you find the courage to be lighthearted and playful, you are rekindling the spark.

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